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Tuesday, 14 March 2023

3 Sacrifices You Need To Make To Escape Poverty.

 



When I was around 17, I came across Brian Tracy and fell in love with his teaching.

I would go to the internet café at night because I couldn't afford the normal fee during the day.

I would spend hours in the night listening to Tracy and reading his quote.

One particular sentence stick with me from Tracy and that is; if you want to achieve

something different, you have to do something different.

If you want to achieve what you've never achieved, you have to do what you've never done before.

Growing up, I wrote the above sentence and pasted it in my room and each day when I saw

those words, I knew that I had to make sacrifices.

It's very simple; if your life is not what you want it to be right now, you have to be

willing to do something different and don't let me sugarcoat anything here; you won't

move from one easy world to another.

Doing something different means getting out of your comfort zone and this is never going

to be easy.

In today's article, I'm going to be sharing with you the 3 sacrifices you need to make

to escape poverty.

Just 17 years ago, I was just one of the young people whose life was a disaster.

I hated my life and wished I was never born because I was born into poverty, sickness,

and many other limitations.

So, how was I able to change my life, from being a guy who hated life to creating one

of the best life ever for myself? Books! Books!!Books!!!

My life changed the day I started reading books and I'll explain how it happens.

First, when I started reading books, I started reading the stories of ordinary people who

achieved extraordinary things.

These stories encouraged me and gave me hope that I could as well overcome every obstacle in my way and achieve greatness in my life.

I think this is very simple; if you know that some people have some disadvantages you think

you have yet, to go on to achieve greatness, you suddenly start to believe in yourself.

When you start to believe in yourself, you start to think big, and when you increase the

size of your dreams, you automatically increase what is possible with your life.

In my case, I started believing that I could become rich, even though I grew up in a poor

village.

I started believing that I could become a millionaire and this belief led me to something

very important; I started looking for how to achieve what I believe I could achieve

by reading books written by people who have made a lot of money before.

I started learning the mindset and the actions of these people and the more I modeled these people, the better my financial life.

Yes, it took me 8 long years before my financial life had a drastic change, without reading

books, I would never have made it.

One other thing you can do in addition to reading books is watch videos that tell

stories about successful people.

Yes, books are boring but so is every meaningful thing.

Fruits are boring and vegetables are boring but if you want to be healthy you'll eat more

of them.

Soda drinks are fun, sugar is sweet and fast foods are nice but if you like your health,

you'll run away from them.

The TV is fun and social media is interesting but if you want to escape poverty, you'll

spend more time with your books.

Sometimes ago, I got to know that Bill Gates reads one book every week.

I've also read about the fact that an average millionaire read one book every week.

If an average millionaire does something, it is probably a good thing to emulate so

I decided that I'm going to be reading one book every week.

This isn't easy and I'm not asking you to start reading a book per week.

But you have to make sacrifices to read books if you want to escape poverty.

Don't make excuses I told you earlier that sugar is sweet and you agree that hard drugs, fast foods, and most other harmful things are fun.

Another very sweet thing is excuses and that's why most people make it.

Listen, you can come up with a hundred reasons why you're where you are if you want and you can as well come up with a single reason why you need to be elsewhere.

The difference is in the way you use the powerful machine God gave you.

That machine is your brain.

If you program your brain to look for the reasons why you're poor, your reticular activating

the system will be busy looking for reasons and you'll start seeing how the economy, the government, and your parents make you poor.

Your brain will quickly show you how your lack of education, your health challenge,

your childhood or even the country in which you were born are the reasons why you're poor.

If however, you program your brain to look for why you must be rich, you'll start seeing

that even in a bad economy, some people are making hundreds of thousands of dollars in

legitimate businesses.

You'll start reading about people who went through similar difficulties like you and ended up successful.

You'll start seeing that you have more power over your life than you think and you'll start taking responsibility.

An excuse is the food of the fools and our world is filled with many of them because an excuse is sweet.

It's about pointing a finger. It's easy.

Everyone can do it but if you want to escape poverty, you'll not do it. Don't make an excuse.

Identify what you have to do to change your life and do it, no matter how difficult.

Trade a hundred failures for one success. I heard something very interesting from Mark Cuban a few days ago and it makes a lot of sense to me.

Cuban said, "It doesn't matter how many times you fail, remember you only have to succeed once."

This statement makes a lot of sense to me because whenever I looked back at my 8 years

of failures, I could see the meaning of this statement.

You see, my first 8 years in the business world was terrible. Everything I attempted failed and everyone thought I was stupid.

I was broke, rejected and frustrated but a day came when I had my first breakthrough.

From there, I had my second breakthrough and the third.

Today, it seems as if everything I touch becomes successful but that's the opposite of the

kind of life I had only a few years ago.

Here is the thing: It doesn't matter how many times you fail, remember you only have to succeed once and that once will quench all the pains of the failed years.

Why is it important you understand this?

Well, most people see failure as a bad thing and that's why they give up.

If you're in search of success, you should understand that the road that leads to success is called failure and failure is not final because a single success can make you forget the pains of ten years' of failures.

Make sacrifices to try things. Make sacrifices to get out of your comfort zone. Make sacrifices to do things that are risky and when you fail, be courageous to stand up and try again because it doesn't matter how many times you fail, all you need is a single success.

The most important point in this article is this; sacrifice.

If you want to escape poverty, you have to be disciplined enough to do things that are not comfortable. It's not comfortable to read but you have to do it.

It's not comfortable to take actions that may lead to failure but you have to do it.

Failure is painful, yet you have to endure failures and try again.

Remember how I started this article; You cannot get a new result by doing the old things and every new thing is uncomfortable.

So you have to be willing to make sacrifices if you want to escape poverty.


Saturday, 18 February 2023

Why You Should Not Deny Your Man Sex as A Form Of Punishment.

 

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Denying a man sex is a big issue. I have an ex-wife who did that to me. ''Alikuwa na excuses ''(She was full of excuses)and made it seem like sleeping with me was doing me a favor.

 I have a policy that when we have an issue, we solve it na mwenye amekosea anasema pole(and whoever is wrong appologise) and we move on. But with her, she used to use sex as a weapon. 

When I thought we are done with the issue, I would realize that she is still holding a grudge and any attempt to initiate sex was met with an excuse. I had legally married her and paid dowry so it seriously hurt. 

One day I got tired and swore to never ask for sex from her again. I never cheated but kinda turned off that switch. Nikifika home(once i get home), we had the normal family time and when we go to bed I just slept. After one week without touching her she started asking why I never initiated sex. I told her she could initiate too and because of pride, she didn't. 

We would just have our normal and the family life was okay but i totally avoided the sex topic. She became so suspicious and started accusing me of cheating. She said that because I had not been sleeping with her, I must be getting it elsewhere.

 I rubbished the claim and I remember that night when we got to bed she started to touch me in an attempt to initiate sex. I didn't respond. All my feelings for her had vanished and been replaced by deep hatred. I remember I got so mad. I pushed her hand away forcefully and she looked at me shaking with fear.

 I guess she thought I was gonna hit her. I told her to never touch me again. The next weeks she was so eager to talk so that we solve the problem. I told her point blank that her habit of denying me sex had made me lose interest in her and that I never thought I could love her again. This broke her. She asked both parents to intervene but no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't forgive her and to be honest, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't make love to her. 

The sexual attraction had gone. I could begin so well then after some minutes, I couldn't go on. She tried so hard to fix the marriage. She cried, apologized a million times and she lost weight due to stress. I was like "haiya, kumbe ulikuwa na haja na ndoa"( ooh, so were interested in the marriage). We separated and later divorced a year later.

 Ladies, you would rather find other conflict resolution skills rather than deny a man sex. That's like the only thing we marry you for. To a man, it hurts and the moment ''mwanaume amekutoa kwa roho'' that's it. Some of you lost your men to other women and you started accusing other women of using witchcraft. To be honest, there is rarely witchcraft involved.

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Wednesday, 11 January 2023

Is it wrong to bathe after having that sumptuous meal? Find out why you should not worry.

There is a myth that one should not shower immediately after having a meal. The belief is that doing so can cause indigestion and other digestive issues. 

However there is no scientific evidence to support this claim. In fact there are several benefits to bathing after eating, such as helping to relax the body and reduce stress, which can aid in digestion. It's also a great way to cleanse the skin and remove any food particles that may be stuck to the skin. 

It's also ok to bath before meal and in fact some people have habit of taking bath before meal as a form of refreshing the body. It's generally recommended to wait at least 30 minutes after a meal before bathing, to allow the body time to begin the digestion process. 

But this is not a rule but one can bath as per his/her comfortability, If one feels comfortable taking a bath immediately after eating, it should not cause any harm. Additionally, the timing of a meal in relation to a bath is not as important as the overall health of an individual. 

For example, if a person has a medical condition that affects their digestion, such as irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) or acid reflux, they may need to take extra precautions when it comes to bathing after eating. In such cases, it would be best to consult with a healthcare professional to determine the best course of action.
It's also worth noting that if you are taking a very hot bath, that can be a contributing factor to digestion issues because the hot water can cause blood vessels to dilate and cause blood flow to shift away from the digestive system. This is not the case with a normal temperature bath, luke worm bath is most suitable after a meal. 

 Generally, it's important to listen to your body and pay attention to how it feels after a meal. If you experience discomfort or indigestion after bathing immediately after meals, it may be best to wait a bit longer before taking a bath. 

But if you feel comfortable and relaxing after taking a bath then it's fine to continue with the same. It's also worth noting that the type of food consumed and the amount of food consumed can also affect whether or not it's safe to bathe immediately after eating. Consuming a heavy or high-fat meal may make an individual feel more uncomfortable after bathing as compared to consuming a light or low-fat meal. 

So if you are planning to take a bath after a heavy meal, it's best to wait for some time to allow the body to start the digestion process and for the food to move down to the stomach.
Another important factor to consider when it comes to bathing after eating is the water temperature. As mentioned earlier, a hot bath can cause dilation of blood vessels and shift blood flow away from the digestive system, which can negatively impact digestion. In contrast, a lukewarm or warm bath can be relaxing and help to promote digestion. 

So, if you are planning to take a bath after a meal, it's best to stick to lukewarm water to avoid any negative impacts on digestion. In summary, bathing after a meal is not a problem and there is no harm in it. It is a myth. 

While it is generally recommended to wait 30 minutes to an hour after eating before bathing, the timing ultimately depends on the individual and their comfort level. And, it's also important to consider the type of food consumed, the amount of food consumed, and the water temperature before taking a bath.

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